Be content with your spouse or your fiancé. The trouble is that we are afraid to dialogue. We never tell another human being our deepest longings. & thus starts, what philosophers call, alienation. May be, we fool ourselves, there is a better human being who will understand us ( read become more like us, for that is the most flattering), a better person than the one we are with who will be more handsome, more pretty et al. Believe you me, this is all load and nonsense. Try every trick in the book before you even glance at another woman or man. I believe in the power of monogamous relationships to transform our lives. Just remember: everyone gets old, and all wine ultimately becomes old wine…if you can’t be in a long term relationship, then you need help. Notwithstanding what fancy psychologists tell you: having affairs is never good for either the mind or the body. Don’t forget, the AIDS virus is out there looking for easy prey.
Never spend more than 75% of your monthly income. Put the first 25% in savings in the beginning of the month and then spend on everything including bills. Read my earlier post on how to get rich on middle-class wealth. Never keep urgently required money in equities. The stock prices may have plummeted when you need the moolah the most!
Never ever post personal information on the net. People should not be able to get to you through online information strewn in the wild. Be careful before you share your address and most importantly: phone numbers. Oh, touchy issue here; never use web-cams to chat with strangers. Your face can be morphed with undesirable fake body parts and this new picture can swamp the net. Be very careful.
Having talked about relationships before; never be ever in a hurry to marry. The old saying: Marry in haste and repent later is very apt. Take all the time in the world to marry, but once married, think not of divorce. Divorce, studies show, ruins everything: health, the spirit and finances. Elopements sound adventurous but suck in the long run. Marriages are between families, communities and not merely between two people. So one should marry not entirely forgetting one’s folks. How is it possible for someone to reject one’s dad of say 30 years for a girl one knows for 5 years? By the same logic, it is possible for this guy to reject his newly-wed wife for someone newer. Thus starts the evil cycle.
Never, I repeat never, give up those small bits of exercise that you do. Housework, walking cycling and playing tennis. Till the day you die keep on running like Forrest Gump. That way you’d be spared of so many fatal diseases. Just keep on moving.
